I was 21 when i had my first child, and i am a single mom now, but i think you can never really prepare for the role of motherhood. Some days it will be easy some not so much. Just go with the flow and never never doubt that you are a wonderful mom. It is easy to think you are doing something wrong...but my advice is:
In the hospital: Let the baby stay the night in the nursery. Not in your room get your rest while there, you will have plenty of restless nights. With my first i had him in the room with me and boy was that hard, but my second, i let him sleep in the nursery and only had him brought in to nurse and i actually got some good rest.
Advice2: If you decide to nurse, which i hope you do, it may seem difficult at first and you will feel like quiting but if you stick with it you will have so many benefits.
Advice3: If anyone offers to watch the baby. Take it!!! Get as many breaks as you can, since being a single mom you have to do double the work!What's the best advice u could give a first time mom 2 be???
The best advice i could give you is to love everyday you have with your special little miracle. You only have one first child and those days and years will fly. Just love your child and make sure they know it. My mum brought up five of us on her own and we are all healthy and happy, and so is she. Just stay strong for yourself and your baby. There will be tough days but dont let them get to you or upset you. I hope you have wonderful life with your baby, (and any more you might have) all the best of luck, and congratulations!
Enjoy every moment.
The house doesn't have to be sparkling every minute of every day. Laundry can pile up.
They are only little one time and it goes SO fast!!
Well get as much sleep as you can now. Of course eat healthy. And to prepare make sure you have a bassinet alot of diapers, wipes, blankets a car seat and cute clothes.
Babies are cute and all, so pamper them a bit. But don't be to pampery (correct conjugation?) because when they grow older, they'll be really rude. My advice is to make sure when they get older, to be very strict with them. They make think it's unfair, but it'll be worth it.
don't stress out about the small stuff. You are not alone and if you think you have it bad, someone else has it worse. You will be fine.
I think that you should first of all love it with all of your heart. One of the biggest pieces of advice that I can give concerning your life and your baby's is that you have to be willing to make sacrifices. This baby is now your priority. Think about it every time you make a big decision (i.e., buying that expensive piece of clothing, taking that new promotion that may take you away from the baby). Also, educationally, I would say to start teaching it things as soon as possible. Babies are sponges, and they can learn more at a young age than a high school student can. New languages are the greatest thing to teach your child at a young age. Also, my mother purchased workbooks and small reading books for me. I think that that helped to shape my mind, and I am eternally grateful to her.
Don't forget to love it with all of your heart, and you should be fine! :D
Best Answer I can give you , Is Don't Listen to other ppl about raising your child , it will only drive you nuts lol , and SLEEP when the baby sleeps , Screw the house work and everything else
i think the best part of becoming a new mom is seeing your child for the first time. you experience an overwhelming feeling of love. it is the best. as far as what to prep for............no sleep! lol! you need to get it in now because once the baby comes, it will take some time to catch back up. GOOD LUCK!
be ready for anything and make sure always to be patient.
I'd set up the nursery around 7 months and start getting my stuff for hospital., and then relax and waitl for baby to be born. After the baby is born just try to relax and get comfortable with baby and then fly by the seat of your pants!!! There are all kinds of websites that can help your learn to do things for and with the babyl there are also plenty of chat room which gives you an opportunity to talk to other single moms. I had my daughter alone so I know where you're at. Good Luck!!
Just remember....babies are amazingly resilient! You won't break her/him. Relax and enjoy it as much as you can. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed....just watch someone that has just had their 3rd baby....they don't sweat the small stuff.
Enjoy and I'm so glad you're excited about it all. Babies will blow your mind.
One last thing.....tons of love is better than tons of money.
Congrats! I have 3 beautiful DD's and lots of advice!
1. Find a great Certified Nurse Midwife. Much better than an OB, and yes they do hospitals.
2. Find a La Leche League group - they welcome pregnant moms, and are a fantastic source of info on birth and mothering as well as nursing. They will not ';tell'; you what to do, but will offer advice.
3. Find an online community. There are ';due date clubs'; which are chat groups of moms due the same month. It is fun to go thru pg. together. They will never get sick of talking about morning sickness/swollen ankles/food cravings like others in your life will!
4. Get ';The Birth Book'; and ';The Baby Book'; by Dr William Sears. They are the best ones.
5. Trust yourself...the little voice that is easy to ignore, many times is right. Listen to your body during pg, then listen to your baby after. Your baby will teach you how to mother him/her, but you have to listen and learn the cries, the signals that your baby has for you. No one will know better than you what is best for your baby, so educate yourself, get information, then make the best decisions you can. You will be a great mama!
Find good books (like What to Expect When You're Expecting and also What to Expect the First Year)
Read ahead so there are no surprises.
When the baby comes, remember that s/he is a little person just like you. Trust your instincts. Don't make things too hard. Just love him/her with all your heart and you will know what to do.
Take note of advice you get from others, but don't be set to follow any word for word no matter what. Every baby is different. You do what is best for your little one. If something seems wrong or mean or too hard for the baby, find your own way to do it.
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